It's not fun anymore
I've been married for 7 yrs (2 kids) and have a great job, great pay, great kids, no financial problems, no addictions, absolutely great life.
EXCEPT my marriage. Wife is a perfect mother but does not put ANY effort in our marriage. She doesn't laugh with me anymore, mocks me, puts me down, sex MAYBE once every three weeks, she wants to get pregnant and that's all I'm good for, and she is now about 60lbs more than when we got married. She is always right and she'll listen to everyone else and their advice or will go completely out her way to help them... but me.
I never said anything about her weight until 2.5 yrs ago. She was about 70lbs overweight and she lived in her pj's or sweats. She still wears maternity clothes or baggy clothes. She works out now, but still eats more then I do. It's as if, what matters to me, does not even phase her.
Pregnancy has been a big issue. I've held out for over 2.5 yrs. I told her that until she loses that weight we are not having another child. 2.5yrs later... she is still 60lbs overweight. She cries and tells me she wants the baby and it's not fair, but to me, it's not fair that she doesn't care about what I want.
What do I do? Marriage is not fun anymore. Our relationship seems like there is no future.
I've tried the following:
1) Cooking for her for months - Didn't matter (she went back into the fridge and ate more unhealthy food or more in quantity)
2) Asking her to go on walks every night - She did it couple of times and then said she needed to take care of the kids
3) Revamped the food in our home - She complained and went to the store and bought everything I threw away
4) Encouraged her and said positive remarks - She says that I don't mean them and it's reverse psych. to get her to lose more weight
Thank you for help
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