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Originally Posted by Mark Spelling
I have a wife a two kids. we have been together for 10 years. I still love her and even more now that the kids are in the picture. I am however feeling less and less physically and passionatly attracted to her. When we do have sex it is out of pure physical desire to fullfill my needs rather than an attraction or passion. I find myself looking at other women constantly and in many cases thinking of ways I could venture out without getting caught. I have tried to hint at ways for my wife and I to spice up our sex life. I even have hinted at way she could change her dress or even exercise more to become more fit and I get in trouble more often than I get a positive response. Does anyone have any advice here for me? I do not want to do something that would hurt her or especially my kids. I also dont want to live the rest of my life feeling like i am trapped in a situation that will never improve.
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I would stop short of saying I am in a similar situation, but I guess it would be close. I would not cheat on my wife, as that would end my marriage, and so it's not an option. You are using the word hinting quite a bit. How can you honestly say your wife knows to the extent of your desires if you are not telling her what your needs are? You need to tell her about how important it is to you and go from there. You should not however tell her you look at other women etc... If you feel as though you have exhausted all avenues and she will not accomodate you, then you can make your decision to separate. In the meantime, I would say masturbate...