draconis

There is nothing wrong with being a gamer, just as long as you are not addicted to it. It sounds like he is. Not having a clean apartment for a young guy, that is normal. Most guys are not the domestic type. I however am and I do know a few others to.

My wife isn't domestic at all. What she considers clean I consider embarassing. Why do I bring this up? Because to many people have different opinions on what is clean and what is an addiction.

I will assume the game he plays is an MMORPG. I will go farther and guess WOW. It is not uncommon for people to spend 2 to eight hours a day everyday playing that game. Let him know that you want to save the relationship but you want him to clean up his place so you feel better about going over, that you expect him to dress right for you and for his work. Let him know he can play his game but he needs to make sure that his priorities are right first like work, school, homework, his apartment, you then the game last.


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