dscowgirl

I am new here. I posted earlier yet wanted to give an overall of the situation. We got married two years ago and I have three girls from my prior marraige. Agreement with ex was one week his house - one week ours. Well after the ex ran into financial problems the kids were going to be with us alot more. I feel with the pressures of my husband's job and extra responsibility of kids he bolted. One other issue, my dad helps us out financially and with other things from time to time. Well after seeing from the other side it was a slap in the face saying" I'll take care of her since you can't " My husband doesn't feel I put him first. He left and has been staying with friends here and there. He has not stayed a night at the house since he left. I have written him a letter explaining all the things that I now have learned and how much I love him and all the feelings from when we first met are still there. I am trying to give him his space. We did talk last week and we just talked. I can tell he still loves me and seems to be on the fence. Last night it was hate and anger. He doesn't know how to get rid of it. I say my role is to help him. He says I can't " I; the problem. I feel there are deeper self issues here.