pinkprincess

HI
I have been married to my wonderful husband for just over a year now and he is every thing any girl dreams about and i am happy with him however we have well i have one big problem which could potentially cause some stress and heart ace...

To start from the start i i was in a previous relationship for 4 years with a man who cheated on me with a stripper and about 4 other girls when i was pregnant ( well stripper when i was pregnant and 4 after) and naturally i have now got security issues, the other aspect of this problem is that right up untill that time (not to sound up myself) but i have always been complemented on my looks , however since then i have had 2 little girls and things have gone a bit well not so hot ... and i have lost a great deal of confidence... we still have great sex but i am a whole lot more aware that i dont look hot any more ( i am not huge but just the normal things that come with post pregnacy...

Before we had our 2nd daughter my we had talk and he promised me that if i was unhappy after i could have breast implants but now that it has happened and i have mentioned that i do feel i want them to make myself feel more beautiful and confident, he tells me i am shallow .....so this is where the problem lies .... i dont know how to avoid reststance towards him, because he just doesnt get it


any thoughts would be greatly appriciated on how to deal with this