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Thewife · 07-02-2008, 08:08 AM

We also had some problems some months back. We started to solve our problem by first taking a lot of time away from each other, we only spent 2 weekends per month as he went on to work in a near by state. This gave us ample time to evaluate the matter and reflect on ourselves. This may not be possible for u and its not a good idea for some couples.

It would be good if you can find something to do on your own that will make you happy and also give the time that he needs. May be this will make him feel like wanting to spend time with you?? I have tried this and it works for us, whenever I have my own things to do away from DH and am enjoying it without bothering him he feels lonely and want to join me or if he doesnt like what i m doing he'll suggest something fun together.

But first of all, you 2 should address the issue and solve it with effective communication, like draconis mentioned explain and listen. To avoid fighting explain using "I message" and listen without interrupting.

07-02-2008, 08:08 AM	#11 (permalink)
Thewife Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 74	Re: Is he bored or really not in love? We also had some problems some months back. We started to solve our problem by first taking a lot of time away from each other, we only spent 2 weekends per month as he went on to work in a near by state. This gave us ample time to evaluate the matter and reflect on ourselves. This may not be possible for u and its not a good idea for some couples. It would be good if you can find something to do on your own that will make you happy and also give the time that he needs. May be this will make him feel like wanting to spend time with you?? I have tried this and it works for us, whenever I have my own things to do away from DH and am enjoying it without bothering him he feels lonely and want to join me or if he doesnt like what i m doing he'll suggest something fun together. But first of all, you 2 should address the issue and solve it with effective communication, like draconis mentioned explain and listen. To avoid fighting explain using "I message" and listen without interrupting.