This is a totally reasonable request. Especially where there is a pattern of conflict with another person or a child. And in those cases he really should be willing to discuss the basics ahead of time, tell you if he agrees and if he does he needs to learn some simple stuff like standing shoulder to shoulder with you and nodding on occasion to make it super clear he is in your court. And he can also chime in if he has some comments that would help. BUT this also means if he asks you to manage the tone of the conflict, that you take his input seriously. I will sometimes suggest a less caustic approach to my wife - mostly she is good with that. I am also willing to say "if you want to do this slash and burn type approach you are on your own, if you want to be blunt but tactful, I have your back"
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Originally Posted by ebp123  It's about respect and support. As for being a strong woman, I've been through a hell of a lot for my years. I'm handling my parents move into a retirement community, working full-time, head of the household financially (my husband lost his job a year ago), and mom of two young children. And I'm not falling apart. I'd consider that a pretty strong woman. |
