Chris H.

You know, I wouldn't be surprised if this has happened to others. We need to be really careful about boundaries when we're communicating with others for support, for a lot of different reasons.

For one, it could be totally innocent, and the other's spouse could interpret it wrong.

Another possible consequence is developing an emotional attachment with the other person that becomes "more than just friends." When that happens, it can be a threat to your marriage because the human brain will naturally get more pleasure out of pursuing this new, exciting relationship, than fixing the one with problems that brought you here in the first place. It takes someone with good boundaries and a healthy ego to realize when that is happening and back off.

I will try to do a post this afternoon about healthy boundaries that might be useful for the forums.

It sounds like you realize this has become a problem, and are reaching out for help. Does your wife know you're still using the site? Is she ok with it?

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