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AZMOMOFTWO · 07-02-2008, 06:12 PM

If she is not willing to leave this guy then you really have no chance to work it out. It sounds like there is a lot of suspicion (and justified) but you can't build a relationship on that. What does she say she wants now, you or him. Or is it a case of wanting both? Maybe if you went on the vacation together no other interferences you could know that and so will she one way or the other. Either your relationship will be rekindled or you will know that it can't be. Love is not enough if its one sided, but if she does love you then you have to start to build that trust. I think saying "I don't want to hurt you" is a real cop out. When someone says that its because they are hurting you and want to relieve some guilt. I am sorry it sounds like you are putting in 100% and not getting a lot back.

07-02-2008, 06:12 PM	#2 (permalink)
AZMOMOFTWO Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 282	Re: ??hurt 4 The Last Time?? If she is not willing to leave this guy then you really have no chance to work it out. It sounds like there is a lot of suspicion (and justified) but you can't build a relationship on that. What does she say she wants now, you or him. Or is it a case of wanting both? Maybe if you went on the vacation together no other interferences you could know that and so will she one way or the other. Either your relationship will be rekindled or you will know that it can't be. Love is not enough if its one sided, but if she does love you then you have to start to build that trust. I think saying "I don't want to hurt you" is a real cop out. When someone says that its because they are hurting you and want to relieve some guilt. I am sorry it sounds like you are putting in 100% and not getting a lot back.