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iheartmywife · 07-03-2008, 05:27 AM

thank you guys for everything. she has told me that she loves me but the what ifs with this guy is keeping her around. she says she is letting me go. i dont get it. she is leaving me for someone she isnt sure about. this guy reminds me of who i was before i met my wife. my wife is a smart woman but the things she does are very stupid. this man has a woman who he lives with. i told her that he will never leave what he has for her. there is a reason that she is still staying with him. as a man i know if i dont want a woman living with me she would be gone or i would be. y would a woman stoop to being the other woman in hopes of hopefully one day being the main woman. to give up what u know u have for something that your not sure u will get just kills me. what would make someone give up thier marraige for something they are not even sure about. it just makes no sense to me.
then she tells me that she is afraid everyone my family and hers will hate her for what she did. now i know her mom will be really disappointed with her for it. her mom went through the same thing with her father. she has never forgiven him for it. up until now. her grandmother is going to really flip. and so will her sisters. on my side the only person i told is my lil sis. u bet she doesnt like what she is doing. i am on the wall about telling my mom seeing as i will have no choice but to move back in with her. my wife decided that she will be moving into OUR apartment. feels like she twists the knife a lil deeper everytime i think about that.
then she tells me that she wants to go to church with me on sunday go talk to the pastor for some counseling. what i dont get is if your willing to drop me y would you do counseling with me. it is like im dealing with two people. my wife and someone else.
i am completely lost. i love my wife to death. what is a sad thing is if somewhere down the line WHEN it doesnt work out with the guy and she wants me back i know i will take her back.
ive sat at my computer crying for the past half hour. asking God to change the situation that im in. I believe with counseling and her fully understanding the meaning of family and marraige we can get through this. but for now im going to give her what she wants. her space.

07-03-2008, 05:27 AM	#6 (permalink)
iheartmywife Member Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 84	Re: ??hurt 4 The Last Time?? thank you guys for everything. she has told me that she loves me but the what ifs with this guy is keeping her around. she says she is letting me go. i dont get it. she is leaving me for someone she isnt sure about. this guy reminds me of who i was before i met my wife. my wife is a smart woman but the things she does are very stupid. this man has a woman who he lives with. i told her that he will never leave what he has for her. there is a reason that she is still staying with him. as a man i know if i dont want a woman living with me she would be gone or i would be. y would a woman stoop to being the other woman in hopes of hopefully one day being the main woman. to give up what u know u have for something that your not sure u will get just kills me. what would make someone give up thier marraige for something they are not even sure about. it just makes no sense to me. then she tells me that she is afraid everyone my family and hers will hate her for what she did. now i know her mom will be really disappointed with her for it. her mom went through the same thing with her father. she has never forgiven him for it. up until now. her grandmother is going to really flip. and so will her sisters. on my side the only person i told is my lil sis. u bet she doesnt like what she is doing. i am on the wall about telling my mom seeing as i will have no choice but to move back in with her. my wife decided that she will be moving into OUR apartment. feels like she twists the knife a lil deeper everytime i think about that. then she tells me that she wants to go to church with me on sunday go talk to the pastor for some counseling. what i dont get is if your willing to drop me y would you do counseling with me. it is like im dealing with two people. my wife and someone else. i am completely lost. i love my wife to death. what is a sad thing is if somewhere down the line WHEN it doesnt work out with the guy and she wants me back i know i will take her back. ive sat at my computer crying for the past half hour. asking God to change the situation that im in. I believe with counseling and her fully understanding the meaning of family and marraige we can get through this. but for now im going to give her what she wants. her space.