I'm pretty sure Dr. Ellen (
LightYourFire) offers some free advice through email. At least she told me she did a few months ago... maybe I can get her to post here...
The important thing to consider with any self-help program or marriage counseling, is that they're only going to work if you put forth the effort and are willing to change. You can listen to a therapist or CD all day long, but if you don't make changes in the way you deal with situations and people in your life, then nothing will change.
In other words, "if nothing changes, nothing will change." (popular saying in mental health field)