Terra

I happen to be more of a 'thinking' type personality. It would be a rare occurence for me to show an outward display of emotions that included tears. I'm not sure we're on the same page with this. I believe I understand what you are attempting to explain in regards to basically having command of ones own feelings etc. Indeed, I get annoyed when for example, I have to deal w/female and sometimes male employees that operate in this immature fashion. And I'm not necessarily simply discussing pitching in and assisting when, say you have a cold/flu, stressed out and that sort of thing. Still that's part of it. I'm talking about being connected on a deeper level as a couple, being interdependent, having concern for the "us" rather then two independent individual going around disconnected from one another perhaps emotionally, physically, spiritually.
Personally I had a rough experience where because I have/we've been pretty independent I ended up having trouble getting help I needed because others around me were used to it going the other way! In otherwords, me helping others etc. I've had some very isolating an scary moments, that yes, I've gotten through, still it would have helped me to have had an easier time at getting help at that point. In a sense I'm discussing the extreme opposite of the initial writer of this thread. I'm also wondering if you have yet to see this angle to what you are expressing.