| | Re: I feel like he pulled the plug
I think the litmus test is pretty easy. When the thought of being alone is more appealing, healthy, and beneficial to the thought of staying in a bad relationship, it's time to check out.
What are you conflicted about? Sounds like you are looking for validation.
NONE of this behavior was evidenced during your courtship? Or were you simply more willing to overlook it?
Based upon what you have presented, and yes, it's only your half of what has occurred, but I just don't see any longterm upside here.
The only point in trying to get him to 'see' how his behavior impacts you, is if you want to stay and work it out. If that isn't the case, what's the point of trying to engage him at all?
This all seems too new, and way to weird to invest a tremendous amount of effort in fixing it. Your kids don't need to see you being abused. They need to see you standing up for yourself and being strong. Both of which you know you can already do.