adviceseeker

"Sexual intimacy is a critical part of marriage--barring some health problem.

Knowing this, a spouse denying intimacy to the other is indulging in deliberate hostility"

Sorry but I don't agree with this - and I think it's the reason that many marriages break down. Assuming that it's a deliberate act of hostility will lead to hostility in return and so on. There are MANY other reasons for with-holding sex apart from hostility or health problems (stress, fear, pain, anxiety, lower libido) than deliberately being hostile. I'm not saying that it is never done deliberately, because I'm sure this also happens, but I think that the other options should be investigated first before you jump to a conclusion like that.

I agree that not having it in a marriage is awful, but making one person feeling guilty for not giving it is probably not going to help.