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RachelLaura · 12-17-2009, 10:15 AM

Wow- thank you so much for all of the advice! I want to clarify some things about my husband's temper. He is not controlling about things I wear, or if I go out with friends.

It's more like little things that I tend to think are really stupid to dwell on. One of our constant fights is him nitpicking things I do around the house- this dish wasn't cleaned very well, you moved my papers around in the office, you didn't take the dog on a long enough walk. I have enough self esteem to not let it get me down, I know I am doing everything I need to do around the house. It's just ANNOYING!

And to the person who said they can relate because they are the optimistic, calm one in the relationship and their husband is more short-tempered and pessimistic, YES!!!! Thats our relationship in a nutshell. We are yin and yang. I can be idealistic and he brings me down to earth. I calm him down and help him look at the brighter side. But sometimes his pessimism is just annoying and whiny.

He has always been like this. His sister told me he's actually gotten a bit better since he met me.

12-17-2009, 10:15 AM	#10 (permalink)
RachelLaura Registered User Join Date: Dec 2009 Posts: 24	Re: Hot-headed husband. Wow- thank you so much for all of the advice! I want to clarify some things about my husband's temper. He is not controlling about things I wear, or if I go out with friends. It's more like little things that I tend to think are really stupid to dwell on. One of our constant fights is him nitpicking things I do around the house- this dish wasn't cleaned very well, you moved my papers around in the office, you didn't take the dog on a long enough walk. I have enough self esteem to not let it get me down, I know I am doing everything I need to do around the house. It's just ANNOYING! And to the person who said they can relate because they are the optimistic, calm one in the relationship and their husband is more short-tempered and pessimistic, YES!!!! Thats our relationship in a nutshell. We are yin and yang. I can be idealistic and he brings me down to earth. I calm him down and help him look at the brighter side. But sometimes his pessimism is just annoying and whiny. He has always been like this. His sister told me he's actually gotten a bit better since he met me.