Thanks very much for your replies and advice, I take all of it on board as I continue the mending process.
As it was, I think I couldn't have chosen a worse time to tell her all the things I did, and believe this contributed to her response. Lets just say it was a "bad time of the month", which is something I usually keep track of, but haven't got the timing right since she had the baby. Over the weekend I sat down and talked a little more about what we discussed. She let me know that she was afraid that I wasn't happy and I was going to leave her. I calmly reassured her that I was never going to leave and that I was only trying to make our relationship stronger. She seemed a lot happier once I explained my reasoning for letting her know, and believe that things are starting to change for the better already. I understand that this is not going to be fixed overnight, and we are both going to have to work together and communicate more for both of us to be happy.
I think the biggest reason behind me not doing this before is the communication I have with my wife. We do talk about things, like who should be doing what house chores, or can you help me out more with so and so, but in terms of our emotional relationship I don't believe we really had anything until now. The biggest problem I have is a fear of discussing my feelings with her, as I'm scared of hurting her. I think that it's better not to mention things to her because if I do she will become really upset and/or it will ruin the relationship. This is the whole reason why I left things go until now. It's only from reading through these forums that I realise I needed to change my way of thinking, and I'm so glad that I've taken the first step.
I'm already starting to see my wife make more of an effort for physical contact, hugs and kisses so I guess we are on our way to a better relationship. I've also started making some changes to my life, by doing more around the house and doing little things to make my wife feel more special, such as flowers, notes, etc. I believe sex is a little way off yet, and I guess we'll just need to take it one step at a time. I'm feeling really good about our relationship and there's a hint of excitement back that I haven't felt for a long time. We still have a long way to go, but it's a nice feeling to know we are moving forward.
Mr Joshua