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Tell you what, When I addressed things with my wife, I had been married seven years, was 34, had a 4 1/2 year old and a 7 month old baby. Sound familiar?  |
OMG BlueCreek, this does sound familiar.
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If you've seen some of my posts as you said, you might have caught that when I sat down late one night to tell my wife that I had been unhappy for a lot of the past 7 years, it floored her. She did not take it all at well.
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I guess I should have expected a similar reaction from my wife when I told her. My biggest fear was hurting her too much. I to wanted to back off and just forget the whole thing once I saw how it affected her.
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I told her her flat out that I understood our baby (who is the worlds worst sleeper) made it impossible to address everything now, and that we could talk about what she could do now as long as we made our long terms goals clear and steadily worked towards them.
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Excellent advice, I will talk to her about maybe doing something similar.
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...like ripping off a bandaid, and it opened a line of communication that we had never had.
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I'm really hoping that this does the same for me and my wife, as I believe we really need to work on our communication.
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Just be loving and affectionate and re-enforce all the amazing ways she is the love of your life to help offset the shock. Don't back off the changes you need to make, just take it slow. You are in love with you wife, happy in everything else, and have made it through 7 years, you can afford to work on this slowly and be patient for the moment because you have a baby. There is very little more exhausting and draining for a woman than having a child, as you know.
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Thanks BlueCreek for your advise. It sounds as though you have been through something very similar to what I'm doing now and it's very inspiring to see there's light at the end of the tunnel. I'll certainly hang in there and try to work slowly forward.
Mr Joshua