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DawnD · 12-18-2009, 08:31 AM

Well, you are talking about 14 years of lies here, so 3 months probably isn't going to be enough for her to get through that. I think the difference here is does she WANT to work through it? When she asked about you having an affair, it doesn't seem that far fetched to me being that you seem to have told her numerous lies, I would expect that she would question your loyalty. I will not go as far as to say you can't get mad about that, but I will say that you shouldn't. She feels like she is married to a complete stranger right now. Like everything she knows and loves is a lie. The trick is to find that one special way to make her see that you love her, only her and want to fix this. You will have to find the key here. What is it she likes to do?? What can I do to show her?? Ask her!!

12-18-2009, 08:31 AM	#5 (permalink)
DawnD Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 1,937	Re: Advice wanted Well, you are talking about 14 years of lies here, so 3 months probably isn't going to be enough for her to get through that. I think the difference here is does she WANT to work through it? When she asked about you having an affair, it doesn't seem that far fetched to me being that you seem to have told her numerous lies, I would expect that she would question your loyalty. I will not go as far as to say you can't get mad about that, but I will say that you shouldn't. She feels like she is married to a complete stranger right now. Like everything she knows and loves is a lie. The trick is to find that one special way to make her see that you love her, only her and want to fix this. You will have to find the key here. What is it she likes to do?? What can I do to show her?? Ask her!!