swedish

I think ending contact with the other man was a great first step, as continuing to use him for support would only further cloud your thinking. It doesn't sound as if your husband understands how bad you've been feeling. I know you have tried talking to him and he responds that he doesn't see a problem, but I think before doing anything drastic (like leaving) you should be more direct with him that you are having thoughts of leaving and why. The best approach would be not to put him on the defensive, but to talk about how you are feeling and what you hoped married life would be like and what would make you feel fulfilled within the marriage. Give him a fair chance to step up to the plate.