gold907

Thank you for your responses. I just wanted an outside objective opinion and I know my husband does care very much, he has always considered his step children his and has always said so and I know he said things in anger. But he was very, very hurt by their actions because he told me before he left that had it been one of their uncle's car, it would not have happened. Anyway, I have already told all the other children involved that they are never ever allowed near my house or around my children. The sad thing is that all the other parents we confronted whose children were involved flat out lied except one that they were even at my house when the police came. So I have heard through the grapevine that they are not even being punished unless of course this case goes to court and the fingerprints the police lifted prove them guilty. It just seems that grounding my daughter over and over again does not prove to make her learn from her mistakes as each mistake escalates into a bigger mistake each time. I feel responsible as her mother that I am not doing a good job or something right because she keeps doing things even though she knows its wrong. I have switched her into another school to get her away from bad influences of the choice of friends she makes. From time to time she cuts her wrists and has done so again. Anyway I have to say that my daughter's actions and attitude all started to change when I had my other daughter, the one year old with my husband now. I just want my husband whom I love very much to get along with my daughter who I do not want to send away because I do not think it will benefit her life or education. My husband has taken this action very personally against him, which is why he has left for a few days to calm down and think things through. So I know objectively you all say he is over reacting, but it is because he knows that the kids subconsciously let this episode happen because it was his truck. I have called to arrange counseling for my daughter and will try to implement family counseling as there are deep seated issues with my husband and her.