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Thank you again Swedish for your input. I am constantly talking to the older kids about their future, they went with me when we opened their savings account years back and they have been taught how to fill out deposit slips and understand what balancing a check book means. Being in the teaching profession I see so many kids that do not have the advantages that my children have as far as parental care and support and parent involvement. I sub at their schools, know all their teachers even their schedules, I know all their friends and many parents. I definitely have used this opportunity to talk to them more especially about the consequences of their choices and how all these decisions affect their future but I cannot bring myself to allow them to have fun right now when I am looking at about $2000 worth of damage to our truck and the fact that they abused my trust. What if someone had gotten hurt or even killed for doing something so stupid, 2 of her friends took the truck off-roading in the desert and thats where all the damage came from. Now that my daughter has broken her contract her shoplifting crime is now going to court and she had almost finished all her community service hours for this misdemeanor to go completely off her record and now she has lost that opportunity. I have told her she is going to see a counselor and am waiting for the paperwork for the referral and she seems open to it and thinks its funny that I told her she needs professional help.

You have given me great advice and its nice to know I am not the only one out there going through dealing with teenage angst. Thank you again.