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draconis · 07-13-2008, 04:52 PM

The first issue I see here is the concept of true love. "True love" is between two people and the ability to overcome the odds together. i don't see this as true love. I do see that you are deeply attached to him, however, I don't think he is as dedicated to you as you are to him. He isn't in the same place as you.

Now don't take that as trying to bash you. It is only my opinion, but I hope to add perspective for you.

The second thing that stands out is the "friends" he keeps. Now I see this on two levels. First to say why I find you wrong. He needs and should have friends of his choice even if they are not "friends" with you. He also should be able to have time to himself to hang with his friends even as an individual. I think you did over react when you saw him outside of school talking to the girl that was his friend. He even introduced you as his girlfriend so it wasn't as if he was being two-faced. However, friends can be an issue for a long time relationship. He needs to respect how you feel on a given situation. Further, he should not put himself in a situation where it is easy to cheat, or that the temptation is there.

Often people have different goals. Some of those goals change as we get older. Your goals and views may very well change from him in the end.

As partners you should not just judge a person based on what you like about them but on all of them. I never liked the way my wife kept house. However, I normally do all the cleaning and cooking. This is fine by me. Why, because it is a part of the whole package. Overall, my wife is the best. But let's be real we all have flaws. For my wife's part the sickness and health it was I that was found with MD. Even though I am limited to what I can do now compared to a few years ago my wife stands by me.

I see an issue with this break. He takes the easy way out and runs. True love would work their way through this together as a team. What would happen if you two were married or had children? Would he still want a break? Maybe he isn't good at relationships yet or is still immature.

This reminds me of the whole FRIENDS show. "We were on a break..." Are you sure you are getting back together by a certian time? Are you sure neither of you are going to date? I have to wonder what he wishes to gain by this.

Maybe the break can do you well. You can back off and see your life away from him and see how important he is to you. Mean while you can work on improving yourself.

Best wishes.

draconis

07-13-2008, 04:52 PM	#2 (permalink)
draconis Forum Supporter Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: North East Posts: 3,508	Re: Seperation Anxiety The first issue I see here is the concept of true love. "True love" is between two people and the ability to overcome the odds together. i don't see this as true love. I do see that you are deeply attached to him, however, I don't think he is as dedicated to you as you are to him. He isn't in the same place as you. Now don't take that as trying to bash you. It is only my opinion, but I hope to add perspective for you. The second thing that stands out is the "friends" he keeps. Now I see this on two levels. First to say why I find you wrong. He needs and should have friends of his choice even if they are not "friends" with you. He also should be able to have time to himself to hang with his friends even as an individual. I think you did over react when you saw him outside of school talking to the girl that was his friend. He even introduced you as his girlfriend so it wasn't as if he was being two-faced. However, friends can be an issue for a long time relationship. He needs to respect how you feel on a given situation. Further, he should not put himself in a situation where it is easy to cheat, or that the temptation is there. Often people have different goals. Some of those goals change as we get older. Your goals and views may very well change from him in the end. As partners you should not just judge a person based on what you like about them but on all of them. I never liked the way my wife kept house. However, I normally do all the cleaning and cooking. This is fine by me. Why, because it is a part of the whole package. Overall, my wife is the best. But let's be real we all have flaws. For my wife's part the sickness and health it was I that was found with MD. Even though I am limited to what I can do now compared to a few years ago my wife stands by me. I see an issue with this break. He takes the easy way out and runs. True love would work their way through this together as a team. What would happen if you two were married or had children? Would he still want a break? Maybe he isn't good at relationships yet or is still immature. This reminds me of the whole FRIENDS show. "We were on a break..." Are you sure you are getting back together by a certian time? Are you sure neither of you are going to date? I have to wonder what he wishes to gain by this. Maybe the break can do you well. You can back off and see your life away from him and see how important he is to you. Mean while you can work on improving yourself. Best wishes. draconis __________________ www.myspace.com/draconis1973 Last edited by draconis; 07-13-2008 at 05:30 PM.