My husband and I were 4 years married when he had a severe hunting accident, during his long process of re-couperating I nurtured him and quit my job to take care of him. We almost lost him and since he's on dissabillity (almost lost his leg) he has not been the man I married. (Mentaly)
He has become short tempered, verbaly abusive, degrades me in front of other people, and spends more time on the computer then you can shake a stick at. (LOL)
He suffers from depression and can only sleep for about 5 hrs a night ( on the couch, he claims it is more comfortable) He is more interested in other things then me.
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He does "perform" in bed just fine (doesn't last but 10 min) but he just doesn't seem to be the same anymore. I can understand that if he was in pain, but he isn't, because he hardly ever take anything for pain, so that isn't it. I've tried to talk to him about his depression, but he refuses to go get some help. He says he doesn't want any "mind altering" drugs! and it always turns into a major argument. He's just not doing anything to keep himself buzzy, especially for the last couple of months. And in turn he's getting big and then complains about it. He's almost always complaining about something. Last night I made a real nice dinner (steak) and he had complained about every thing, the potato was green, the steak was too rare, no pepper or salt on the table. I just can't seem to get things right for him.
The more he's the way he is now, the less I like it and want him close to me, he's depressing the hell out of me now too!
I just don't know what to do anymore, I've tried to be nice, I've tried to cheer him up anyway possible, yet again some days he's just cheerfull and sweet.
Someone help me!!!!