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Originally Posted by draconis
MrsLV ~ Please keep in mind that I actually agree with you on every point. But on other forums I have had people and even couples say this or that is okay in their relationship and that cheating is more grey then black and white. Perfect example flirting. Flirting can lead to many things and can be suggestive and you can not control the other person. Yes or no is any flirting - cheating. Many have up to x as a responce because it is grey. Is talking about sex with strangers cheating? Different people have different perspectives. My wife knows every forum I am on and the passwords I use. Some forums I am on I talk about sex. Before I joined I showed them to her and asked if she would be bothered by it. She has all my email accounts and though I chat with people about relationships and even sex it is never in a flirty way and everyone I talk to knows I am happily married and would never cheat. But more over there is nothing in my life I have to hide because my wife knows and we communicated on each and every subject and even every forum.
draconis
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I agree. We, too, share passwords and are very honest. I feel flirting is wrong-can't say it's "cheating" but definitely that it's not the right thing to do and would be disrespectful to our commitment to each other. I suppose your marriage and my marriage are alike in that we have honesty, respect, and so many other positive things that make for a successful marriage/relationship.
I can't imagine a grey area in my marriage-we're too open with each other to have those kind of non-definites. And I imagine that I'd be very uncomfortable if the light of honesty would ever be dimmed by greyness.
Having said that, I stand by my comment that the affair was wrong-but I know of pain from violations of trust from my past, and healing is possible. Chloe good luck. Have faith in yourself and in your higher power, and believe that you can heal from this.