Re: Marriage and Physically Handicapped
It took me the better part of three years to understand myself. Even though the wife and I never lost communications, It was hard to express how I felt because I didn't know why. Finally I decided I couldn't pull myself out and the other side was getting help. I had to learn to take it on by doing baby steps forward. It is nice to hear, "If you want to talk to someone, I have two ears, no waiting..."
Just remember you can't "solve" his problems for him. He needs to understand that life will go on and he can still enjoy it just as much. I have had to alter my entire life for my MD, but I have never been closer to my family or friends as I am now. I can't do all the things I use to like to do (I was a long distance runner and swimmer.) But now I found new hobbies I like as much if not more.
Understand he is in a difficult place and his anger isn't at you, but rather himself. I know I was there.
Empathy and communication is the best thing right now. He has a lot built up that he just needs to tell someone. A suggestion of a psychologist might help, or ask him to talk to his doctor. Leave it at that and hope he finally takes advantage of it.
He is lucky to have you. You are a wonderful person because not only is he suffering but the family is too.
draconis
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