LostandAlone

There are recording devices that you can purchase but they are expensive and harder to hide. I thought about getting one that was the shape and size of a pen but that only would give me 1 side of the conversation. There are other devices to pull deleted text messages and phone #'s from a cell phone but if your husband is like my wife he doesn't let it out of his site for long.

Web Watcher cost about $100 and if you have access to the computer he would be using it's very easy. All you do is open up an email that the company sends you and it installs the program on the computer. It is completely undetectable and can only be accessed by a hotkey combination. You would then just pull up the website and log in where you can see everything that he does on the computer. For me the best info was the email passwords because she thought she was safe when she changed them on me and therefore she let her guard down and saved some pretty incriminating stuff.

Now for the question of when do you leave. It really depends on how much you are willing to put up with. My wife refused to stop talking to him on the phone which would have pushed most men away however I decided to hang in there. Then when I found out about the physical part and a scheduled rendezvous I STILL did not give up completely however I did prepare to protect myself. Now I am just waiting on her decision to go on this rendezvous or to call it off. For me that is where I drew the line in the sand. If she goes I am immediately filing for divorce. If not I will give counseling more time and will work on saving the marriage. Deep down I know she will end up choosing him but at least I can say that I did everything that could be expected and more to save the marriage. For me that means a lot and will help me get closure.