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blackeyedsusan37 · 07-16-2008, 10:18 AM

He is still living here at the house. We filed Chapt 13. I am working 2 jobs to make up the money that I wasted. He is not sleeping in our bed, let alone having any type of sex. I have not even asked or made attempts. He says he "is not ready". I tell him I love him every chance I get. I do the little things I did before (write on the bathroom mirror so he sees it when it is fogged up, call him throughout the day, massage his feet after working on his feet all day, fix his favorite treats, etc). He hasnt even told me that he loves me except this weekend when we were having a serious discussion. I hold onto that and am working my butt off to fix this. I know it wont be over night but the not touching, the emotional distance is hurting me. I feel lonely. I hugged him this morning before he left for work, it was the first time he let me touch him in several weeks.
As far as the money goes, I would write checks and they would bounce then they would be re-submitted and the fees kept adding up. In all it was $5642.37. I spent the money on nothing, I cant even tell you, food maybe. Eating at restaurants. Hanging out at the bars. I dont know.
Any thoughts?

07-16-2008, 10:18 AM	#6 (permalink)
blackeyedsusan37 Registered User Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Southern Maryland Posts: 19	Re: I need a man's advice He is still living here at the house. We filed Chapt 13. I am working 2 jobs to make up the money that I wasted. He is not sleeping in our bed, let alone having any type of sex. I have not even asked or made attempts. He says he "is not ready". I tell him I love him every chance I get. I do the little things I did before (write on the bathroom mirror so he sees it when it is fogged up, call him throughout the day, massage his feet after working on his feet all day, fix his favorite treats, etc). He hasnt even told me that he loves me except this weekend when we were having a serious discussion. I hold onto that and am working my butt off to fix this. I know it wont be over night but the not touching, the emotional distance is hurting me. I feel lonely. I hugged him this morning before he left for work, it was the first time he let me touch him in several weeks. As far as the money goes, I would write checks and they would bounce then they would be re-submitted and the fees kept adding up. In all it was $5642.37. I spent the money on nothing, I cant even tell you, food maybe. Eating at restaurants. Hanging out at the bars. I dont know. Any thoughts?