You have done your part with your stuff, but you are right. The changes cannot just come from you it has to meet both of your needs. Make a list of your needs and rank them on importance to you. Then discuss with him. If he doesnt want to meet you in the middle then you need to find out what is holding him back. There might be some kind of mental block he has going on.
change is constant and you both have to change not just one side otherwise it wont work.
I am sorry for your issues and I do hope they get better. Keep fighting.
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Missy~
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