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catnkaboodle · 07-16-2008, 10:41 PM

Thank you for your kind words, but he won't even talk to his own doctor. It all is only half of the problems we have (or should I say "He")
Last May a year ago, we celebrated our 10th wedding anniversary and we went away for 3 days, everything went perfect (so I thought). Last Oct. I happen to check our windows email box and all of a sudden allot of emails from woman popped up from "Myspace" requesting to be his friends because they liked what they saw!! I was suspicious and tried to log in under his name, it wouldn't let me, so I clicked the forgot password and got a reply with his password.
I logged on and had the shock of my life, so bad that I thought I had to call 911. I wouldn't have minded it, but I saw that he had claimed he was single. P.S. At first I thought maybe either one of my kids would have done that as a prank, but the password was only what he and I would have known.
A week later ( after cooling off and thinking on how to approach him) I confronted him about it,......... he went nuts and claimed he didn't do that, and that someone had hacked into our computer ( lame excuse) then he said maybe his ex did it, then his brother, and then someone that didn't like him.
I knew he lied, because the last time someone had logged on was the same day I took my son to the airport, and my other son was with me. So it couldn't have been either of my kids.
Ever since last Oct. our relationship has more and more downs then ups. He told me he isn't cheating on me, but how can I trust him after a thing like that. I also found out that he's been looking at naked woman on the Internet, and when I confront him he says, "I've been looking at woman along time before you came around" and that I was a snoop and that I should keep my nose out of his emails and that he could talk and look at whatever he felt like.
Lately he's also now reading articles about dating,....... am I going crazy? am I a snoop? should I worry? I've tried to trust him and I've tried to talk to him about it, but how long do I put up with his bull or should I put up with it. Maybe it's me,.....
He's been like this now for the last year, but it has gone progressively worse since his accident back in '01. What to do?

07-16-2008, 10:41 PM	#5 (permalink)
catnkaboodle Registered User Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 3	Re: Marriage and Physically Handicapped Thank you for your kind words, but he won't even talk to his own doctor. It all is only half of the problems we have (or should I say "He") Last May a year ago, we celebrated our 10th wedding anniversary and we went away for 3 days, everything went perfect (so I thought). Last Oct. I happen to check our windows email box and all of a sudden allot of emails from woman popped up from "Myspace" requesting to be his friends because they liked what they saw!! I was suspicious and tried to log in under his name, it wouldn't let me, so I clicked the forgot password and got a reply with his password. I logged on and had the shock of my life, so bad that I thought I had to call 911. I wouldn't have minded it, but I saw that he had claimed he was single. P.S. At first I thought maybe either one of my kids would have done that as a prank, but the password was only what he and I would have known. A week later ( after cooling off and thinking on how to approach him) I confronted him about it,......... he went nuts and claimed he didn't do that, and that someone had hacked into our computer ( lame excuse) then he said maybe his ex did it, then his brother, and then someone that didn't like him. I knew he lied, because the last time someone had logged on was the same day I took my son to the airport, and my other son was with me. So it couldn't have been either of my kids. Ever since last Oct. our relationship has more and more downs then ups. He told me he isn't cheating on me, but how can I trust him after a thing like that. I also found out that he's been looking at naked woman on the Internet, and when I confront him he says, "I've been looking at woman along time before you came around" and that I was a snoop and that I should keep my nose out of his emails and that he could talk and look at whatever he felt like. Lately he's also now reading articles about dating,....... am I going crazy? am I a snoop? should I worry? I've tried to trust him and I've tried to talk to him about it, but how long do I put up with his bull or should I put up with it. Maybe it's me,..... He's been like this now for the last year, but it has gone progressively worse since his accident back in '01. What to do?