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Originally Posted by Missy
You have done your part with your stuff, but you are right. The changes cannot just come from you it has to meet both of your needs. Make a list of your needs and rank them on importance to you. Then discuss with him. If he doesnt want to meet you in the middle then you need to find out what is holding him back. There might be some kind of mental block he has going on.
change is constant and you both have to change not just one side otherwise it wont work.
I am sorry for your issues and I do hope they get better. Keep fighting.
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Missy~
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Thank you! I know you are right. Tonight he admitted this may well be a midlife crisis but he has no idea on how to make himself feel better. I told him happiness was a conscious decision you make. He did ask for help from me so I feel encouraged. I have been telling him some of my needs, tonight I told him I need to make my partner happy, without that I feel empty. I don't make him happy and so I feel so empty inside. He said "you don't make me unhappy". I told him it was not enough. Making a list is a good idea.