jessi

I hear you, even if it doesn't matter to them or the fact that they couldn't go through with the act. It just opens so many questions of doubt about the relationship, their trustworthyness, even us as partners......I'm the same way I think the thing that bothers me the most is that he could even do the whole act, it's like I didn't matter at all to him.....I honestly trusted him without a doubt, never dreamed I would be dealing with this issue and all the doubt it has created.
What now? You have to decide if you want to save your marriage and decide if you can trust your spouses again. This has to be a 2 way deal, the two of you need to talk and work together so each of you feel good moving forward, you have to ask yourself if there was something in your marriage that could be worked on so this won't happen again.....Forgivness needs to happen, marriages are worth saving, but stand firm if ever another time and you will be walking out of the marriage. everyone deserves a 2nd chance but that's it.
good luck to both of you