63Vino

I have NO idea what the actual statistic is, but from what I've seen, 90+% of the time, the cheating is not discovered until after the "i dont love you anymore" discussion or you find the text messages.
The fact that he came open to you pretty much straight away, is a very good sign that this is salvagable and he loves you.
Did you marry the perfect partner or did you "think" you did? I hope not.
If you love him, don't let your old stated rule get in your way. If you love each other and want to stay together simply do what's right for you! You cant just "let it go" (cheating) however. There is a reason he did not respect your agreement to only be with you, so, some counseling to figure that out and address it is in order, which im guseeing he willingly would agree to.

good luck!

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