DawnD

Its not unreasonable to ask what she is going to do to try and make this work. My H had an affair, and even though the bulk of the responsibility lie on him, I can still tell you my role in it all. He spent a year pushing me away. Instead of insisting we fix this, I just shut down and disconnected. A year later, he had an A for two weeks. Slept with her 3 times. THAT is completely his fault, but I should have insisted we fix it before it was completely broken.
Ask her what she can do to help you. Tell her you need to know that she appreciates the efforts you are making. Talk about maybe getting something for just the two of you to do together that you both can enjoy. Don't let her having a bad day set you back. I still have bad days, and a movie can completely put me in a bad place. The difference is I had made an effort to tell my H so he can comfort me and reassure me that this will never happen again. I need the constant reassurance for now, I am guesing she does too!