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Meme · 07-20-2008, 12:10 PM

I am wondering why he still has access to the money? I know your not his mother but if he is willing to go to counceling and willing to take drug tests at home, is he not willing to direct deposit his check into your single signer accout that only you have access to? That would be my first step if I was going to stay. All money goes to you and you set his allowance. No credit card access at all. Just cash daily if thats what it takes in 10.00 a day payments. I see his counceling have you tried going to nar-anon. A support group for those that are co-dependent to addicts? I think that seeing counceling and support on your own will help you to get perspective from others that have lived this. My best friend has been married for 10 years to a crack addict. I would of left him the first year but that is just me. Good luck but it sounds to me you need professional help for yourself to deal with this.

07-20-2008, 12:10 PM	#3 (permalink)
Meme Registered User Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 2	Re: My Marriage-No Trust I am wondering why he still has access to the money? I know your not his mother but if he is willing to go to counceling and willing to take drug tests at home, is he not willing to direct deposit his check into your single signer accout that only you have access to? That would be my first step if I was going to stay. All money goes to you and you set his allowance. No credit card access at all. Just cash daily if thats what it takes in 10.00 a day payments. I see his counceling have you tried going to nar-anon. A support group for those that are co-dependent to addicts? I think that seeing counceling and support on your own will help you to get perspective from others that have lived this. My best friend has been married for 10 years to a crack addict. I would of left him the first year but that is just me. Good luck but it sounds to me you need professional help for yourself to deal with this.