justean

r u a pervert, just in the sense you like porn - or does the pervert bit go deeper. because if your a porn addict - i dont see it in that sense as your a pervert.
i love watching porn with and without my hubby - so am i a pervert.my answer has to be no. but im not an addict.
the trouble with the fantasy , its not the real world and like you say when your actually comfronted with it in the flesh u back of.
when my hubby and i split. i knew a bloke through a friend and we had txt sex. god it was fantastic. and yes i had fantasy fun.
but when i saw him again, despite all we said. the thought of doing the actual event with him was well a "no, no thankyou".
i do feel for you. your addiction is not an easy one. but neither is giving up smoking or being an alcoholic.
you have already started the process of giving in to your addiction, you admit it. you are a porn addict. well done.
i personally can put up with n e thing in moderation. but its to much to cope with for the person who doesnt have the addiction, if n e thing taken in excess.
keep the communication channels open with you wife.
but either way you really do need to atleast change yourself and reduce your addiction to a satisfactory level, that could be enjoyed by both of you.