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graniteheart · 10-06-2007, 11:28 PM

Well Jennifer, every situation is different just as every person is different. The hope you can hold onto is that my sweetheart and I have now been married 28 years and we are more in love than I could have imagined possible. There is always hope as long as love is alive.

As for your differences in faith, don't despair. My wife is very religious and I am athiest and it doesn't matter one little bit in our relationship. We have communicated our beliefs and feelings and we know where each other stands and we don't cross the line into each others beliefs. As long as you can establish mutual respect for each other's beliefs it shouldn't be a problem. I should tell you that I love my wife more than life itself, more than anything in this world or this universe. I love my children and grandchildren equally as much. Just because I don't buy into the God theory doesn't mean I am heartless. I used to be very religious, but I love to study and read and in my studies I have discovered certain facts that, for me, disallow the possibility of the creatioin theory. Anyway, my heart is full of love for my family and for my fellow humans I share this planet with. I don't need to believe in God to know that I love people and that in order for the billions of people to share this one small world we have to be tollerant of each other and I do believe in the golden rule; "Do unto others". That is what your husband needs to realize. Maybe you can help him to see how he would feel if you did some of the terrible things to him that he does to you.

I will share one short story so you can see that there is always hope. When my wife and I were having our problems one night I was laying in bed waiting for her and watching her get ready. My heart filled with so much love for her and I just wanted to share that love. I tried to tell her this when she turned and looked at me and said, "oh my gosh look at your belly, I didn't know it was so fat, look how it just lays out there like a big blob." I wasn't that fat, but it worked, I didn't want to be intimate any more that night. To this day, even though we have worked past our problems, I still cover my belly when I am laying down so no one can see it "laying out there like a big blob".

Sending you hugs and love and wishes for a happy ending to your problems.

10-06-2007, 11:28 PM	#9 (permalink)
graniteheart Registered User Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 5	Re: newlywed and not happy Well Jennifer, every situation is different just as every person is different. The hope you can hold onto is that my sweetheart and I have now been married 28 years and we are more in love than I could have imagined possible. There is always hope as long as love is alive. As for your differences in faith, don't despair. My wife is very religious and I am athiest and it doesn't matter one little bit in our relationship. We have communicated our beliefs and feelings and we know where each other stands and we don't cross the line into each others beliefs. As long as you can establish mutual respect for each other's beliefs it shouldn't be a problem. I should tell you that I love my wife more than life itself, more than anything in this world or this universe. I love my children and grandchildren equally as much. Just because I don't buy into the God theory doesn't mean I am heartless. I used to be very religious, but I love to study and read and in my studies I have discovered certain facts that, for me, disallow the possibility of the creatioin theory. Anyway, my heart is full of love for my family and for my fellow humans I share this planet with. I don't need to believe in God to know that I love people and that in order for the billions of people to share this one small world we have to be tollerant of each other and I do believe in the golden rule; "Do unto others". That is what your husband needs to realize. Maybe you can help him to see how he would feel if you did some of the terrible things to him that he does to you. I will share one short story so you can see that there is always hope. When my wife and I were having our problems one night I was laying in bed waiting for her and watching her get ready. My heart filled with so much love for her and I just wanted to share that love. I tried to tell her this when she turned and looked at me and said, "oh my gosh look at your belly, I didn't know it was so fat, look how it just lays out there like a big blob." I wasn't that fat, but it worked, I didn't want to be intimate any more that night. To this day, even though we have worked past our problems, I still cover my belly when I am laying down so no one can see it "laying out there like a big blob". Sending you hugs and love and wishes for a happy ending to your problems.