Talk About Marriage - View Single Post

graniteheart · 10-06-2007, 11:43 PM

Dear babyblues,

Wow! You have received a lot of good advice here, and you have shared your heart with us. Thank you for opening your personal very intimate life to us. As I discovered with Jennifer, every situation is as different as every person. The facts are that your husband is doing this for some reason. His doing this is hurting you. You have told him that it hurts you and he still did it again.

I own a transmission business and I can relate your situation to my business. When a vehicle is brought to me with a problem transmission my first action is to find out where it failed. If I can find the cause of the failure I can fix it so it doesn't break again. Finding the base problem is the key to fixing any transmission. If I rebuild the transmission without finding what caused the failure to begin with, many times it will break again very shortly. You and your husband need to work together to find out "why" he is doing this. If you can get to the bottom of that, you can probably make lasting changes. If you never fix the problem, you may never truly be free of him returning again and again.

Of course that's just one opinion of many, and it is worth about as much as it cost. Take it with a grain of salt, and know that my warmest wishes are with you and your husband in working through this.

10-06-2007, 11:43 PM	#16 (permalink)
graniteheart Registered User Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 5	Re: Unfaithful? Dear babyblues, Wow! You have received a lot of good advice here, and you have shared your heart with us. Thank you for opening your personal very intimate life to us. As I discovered with Jennifer, every situation is as different as every person. The facts are that your husband is doing this for some reason. His doing this is hurting you. You have told him that it hurts you and he still did it again. I own a transmission business and I can relate your situation to my business. When a vehicle is brought to me with a problem transmission my first action is to find out where it failed. If I can find the cause of the failure I can fix it so it doesn't break again. Finding the base problem is the key to fixing any transmission. If I rebuild the transmission without finding what caused the failure to begin with, many times it will break again very shortly. You and your husband need to work together to find out "why" he is doing this. If you can get to the bottom of that, you can probably make lasting changes. If you never fix the problem, you may never truly be free of him returning again and again. Of course that's just one opinion of many, and it is worth about as much as it cost. Take it with a grain of salt, and know that my warmest wishes are with you and your husband in working through this.