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Tonyaap20 · 01-13-2010, 02:38 PM

This has been a rough past two and half years for me because I have been the biggest I have ever been the past two and half years. I am only 21 years old, and I am miserable... The biggest reason is that my husband is no longer physically attracted to me. I know he loves me, I really do know it. We still have sex but it is usually in the dark which upsets me a lot. He doesn't make fun of me or anything. Here's the story:

I got with him at age 15 when I weighed 145 lbs which was not that bad considering I was pretty tall for my age. He was so in love with me and my body. He wined and dined me every chance he got. Then I got pregnant at 18, and no I did not gain a whole lot of weight when I was pregnant I gained about 10 pounds that I kept when I was pregnant. After I had her, I had to have birth control so I took the shot until I could get my insurance to pay for the IUD, I literally BLEW UP.. I gained 100 pounds in less than 6 months it seemed like. That's when he told me that he was not physically attracted to me the first time... and it hurt it really did. I was around 265 pounds, and I was already pissed at myself as it was so that let me down more. So I went to the doctor and got phentermine and lost down to 215. Our relationship sparked a little bit again and I guess I started feeling good so I put 20 pounds back on. For the past two years those 20 pounds have been coming and going... In 2009, I got laid off and I could not even think of dieting do to being depressed and unemployed. So my weight was like a yo-yo all year. This year I am done with this I weight 230 pounds to date and by the end of the year I will lose the 80 pounds.... but here's the deal. He has came to me and told me that my weight is affected his attraction to me physically and sex is beginning to suck for us. He masturbates every single morning, and I can beg all night for sex and he does that instead. It really is hard for me to not get angry at him, because it hurts so bad. I want to know what your advice is, by the way I am losing weight for me not him. I just wonder if to anyone else if he is being fair to me? Is this relationship going to work? Also, How do I deal with this problem?

PlEASE HELP!

01-13-2010, 02:38 PM	#1 (permalink)
Tonyaap20 Registered User Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 6	He is no longer physically attracted to me... This has been a rough past two and half years for me because I have been the biggest I have ever been the past two and half years. I am only 21 years old, and I am miserable... The biggest reason is that my husband is no longer physically attracted to me. I know he loves me, I really do know it. We still have sex but it is usually in the dark which upsets me a lot. He doesn't make fun of me or anything. Here's the story: I got with him at age 15 when I weighed 145 lbs which was not that bad considering I was pretty tall for my age. He was so in love with me and my body. He wined and dined me every chance he got. Then I got pregnant at 18, and no I did not gain a whole lot of weight when I was pregnant I gained about 10 pounds that I kept when I was pregnant. After I had her, I had to have birth control so I took the shot until I could get my insurance to pay for the IUD, I literally BLEW UP.. I gained 100 pounds in less than 6 months it seemed like. That's when he told me that he was not physically attracted to me the first time... and it hurt it really did. I was around 265 pounds, and I was already pissed at myself as it was so that let me down more. So I went to the doctor and got phentermine and lost down to 215. Our relationship sparked a little bit again and I guess I started feeling good so I put 20 pounds back on. For the past two years those 20 pounds have been coming and going... In 2009, I got laid off and I could not even think of dieting do to being depressed and unemployed. So my weight was like a yo-yo all year. This year I am done with this I weight 230 pounds to date and by the end of the year I will lose the 80 pounds.... but here's the deal. He has came to me and told me that my weight is affected his attraction to me physically and sex is beginning to suck for us. He masturbates every single morning, and I can beg all night for sex and he does that instead. It really is hard for me to not get angry at him, because it hurts so bad. I want to know what your advice is, by the way I am losing weight for me not him. I just wonder if to anyone else if he is being fair to me? Is this relationship going to work? Also, How do I deal with this problem? PlEASE HELP!