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AZMOM - To answer your question, yes my wife has struggled with depression. It is tough to say if that is one of the issues right now. We had one marital therapy session months ago and the therapist thought she was depressed. This upset my wife and she will not go back to him or any other therapist. She doesn't feel (or refuses to accept) she is depressed at this point because she has been working out, eating better, losing weight, has more energy etc. etc. Frankly, I believe it has something to do with our problems. However, it is such a hot button for her that I certainly can't approach her about it right now. Its a tough topic for me and I wish I knew better how to handle it. I am certain that any comments from me about the possiblity that she is depressed, no matter how caring, honest, tactful and heartfelt they may be, would be met with bitter distain and resentment. Deep down she may understand she is depressed, but I expect she blames me for much of it.

You are welcome for any useful advice I may have given. Remember I am certainly no professional when it come to relationships. Quite to the contrary indeed. To paraphrase another poster on this forum, I'm just another guy trying to fix a broken home.

Thanks again for the kind words. As always my best to you and yours.

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