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Love should not be conditional or its not true love. Although being attracted to someone is not the same as love. I believe we are programmed to be attracted to certain body types so what you describe is normal. Its not 5 or 10 pounds, you are talking about extreme weight gain. The other issue is perhaps he now lacks confidence in himself, and let's face it that is also a turn off. Also his lack of caring for his health would be something that would also bother me. You don't want to hurt him or discourage him so he just gives up, but why don't you encourage him instead? How about starting a work out routine together, how about fixing low calorie health meals. When he participates and starts working at it build his confidence. If you love him, you want him to be healthy. I have always been physically fit, although since marriage (15 years and 2 babies later) I'm not as fit as I once was. Although at a size 6, I'm also not huge either! One of the things my husband said to me is "I'm in the best shape of my life and you haven't done much for yourself" I knew he meant the weight gain, lack of exercise, and I'll admit my hairstyle which I used to wear very long also never changed. Ok, good point. Was I hurt, yeah, but motivated. I cut my hair to my shoulders and colored it...I love it! I was lazy about wearing contacts but now wear them every day. I lost 15 pounds in 3 weeks and am dedicated to a workout program. People noticed! I've had several people be very complimentary. It makes me feel great. I'm not doing this for him, I love how I feel. I have more energy, can manage stress better, and now love to try on clothes. Guess what? I have confidence now. It changed my attitude, not just because of the improved physical appearance but now I was caring about me. Now while he was getting in good shape, guess who was watching the kids? When he bought himself rollerblades did he think to buy me a pair? Did he plan healthier meals? Did he even make it easy for us to eat before 8 or 9pm, no! He focused on him, while I focused on the family. However, I learned to balance both. What I wished he would have done when he began working on himself was to say "hey let's do this together". Together we could have worked out our schedules, planned better meals, and encouraged each other. Rather than him do it while he left everything to me then say hey you don't look so good. Good luck!