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Old 07-24-2008, 10:49 AM   #24 (permalink)
swedish
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Default Re: Trying to keep my marriage together!

Blind has made some solid points.
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Originally Posted by Bad Guy View Post
I have trouble with this because I believe nothing can get better if I'm not given a chance to prove myself.
You do have the chance to prove yourself to yourself. Quitting drinking and becoming the goodguy is the only way to prove you're a changed man, so focus on staying on course because you can't make those changes for her or to win her back, if they are to be lasting changes because you want them it will be worth it in the end no matter how things work out. She needs to see real change and start to feel this change is not temporary. You cannot force this upon her but if you are sincere she will notice, even if your contact is minimal at this point.
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