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anotheryear · 07-24-2008, 12:04 PM

Only your doctor can advise re. the pros/cons of the hormones. In your shoes, I 'd probably go back to the medical doctor to "discuss it." Even if you have no intention of taking them. That way you can respond to the counselor and to your husband that you considered their suggestion seriously but that your doctor advises you not to take them.

As far as staying in the marriage...that is tough. I guess I'd want to try every avenue first, but I do think what you're feeling is normal. I have some trust issues with my husband on other issues and it makes it hard to have a good marriage. Even on unrelated issues, I always wonder when and if he is telling me the truth. The emotional damage isn't going to go away over night...even if the issues that caused the trust breach are resolved.

I try to ask myself---if I can imagine myself, maybe 5-10 years from now, in a place where I mostly trust him and our marriage is emotionally satisfying, then do I think it will have been worth it to stick it out? Or will I still wish I had made a new start with someone else or even alone?

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anotheryear Registered User Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 14	Re: Is it my hormones or my marriage? Only your doctor can advise re. the pros/cons of the hormones. In your shoes, I 'd probably go back to the medical doctor to "discuss it." Even if you have no intention of taking them. That way you can respond to the counselor and to your husband that you considered their suggestion seriously but that your doctor advises you not to take them. As far as staying in the marriage...that is tough. I guess I'd want to try every avenue first, but I do think what you're feeling is normal. I have some trust issues with my husband on other issues and it makes it hard to have a good marriage. Even on unrelated issues, I always wonder when and if he is telling me the truth. The emotional damage isn't going to go away over night...even if the issues that caused the trust breach are resolved. I try to ask myself---if I can imagine myself, maybe 5-10 years from now, in a place where I mostly trust him and our marriage is emotionally satisfying, then do I think it will have been worth it to stick it out? Or will I still wish I had made a new start with someone else or even alone?