Alex,
At risk of TMI - my experience with this stuff is as follows. Oh and my experience also aligns with all the research I have read on human female sexual behavior as it pertains to their ovulation cycle.
At her low desire point - my wife only wants gentle sex. As her desire level rises getting toward her mid cycle peak and ovulation - she wants ever more alpha behavior from me in bed. Simple stuff like some playful wrestling before hand where I over power her. Now - context is EVERYTHING - my wife feels totally totally safe with me. She knows I would never hurt her. So at some level this all works for her. Physically being dominated hits some wiring that makes her desire levels flare in a way that nothing else can. I am NOT saying she likes pain. I am saying she seems to go crazy for the being overpowered scenario at that point in the month.
At her peak - once we start she LIKES to be held down by me. And on occasion likes to be spanked. She does NOT like being spanked at any other time.
Mildly rough sex is a super spicy form of love - I never ever would have thought I would like it - but I do. And the funny thing is that in all this - I am the innocent. She initiated all of it. Really I feel kind of naive some days.....
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Originally Posted by Alexandra
Here's just a few thoughts I have...
Your post made me stinking angry at first, then I figured that's what you wanted, passionate reaction. Hmmmmm. So I told myself to settle down.
I agree with your first point. And I totally wish that more women got that. If they could nurture their husbands sexually (in a healthy way), their marriage would be better off. Unfortunately it's not as simple as that sometimes. Sex is a powerful thing and it's not handled well at times by both men and women.
I'll be honest. I thought hard about your spanking comment. Seriously. My conclusion is nope, I cannot say that would turn my crank or make me feel like a woman. I prefer to be cherished. Held accountable for my actions, led by a strong, intelligent man, sure. But not in that personal, intimate, physical punishment type of way. Sorry, not for me. And I'm thinking not for many women. Your wife likes to get it, you like to give it? Good for you.
Marriage is in fact a partnership, although not with "equal" partners. Each bring something different into a marriage and each need to step up to that role. But both need to be supportive and work together (as successful partners do).
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