Re: Is it hopeless?
Ok first...You said you wanted to live for the moment, then you asked if that was cool, per say.
Don't ask if you want to do that, just DO IT. Thats what living for the moment is.
Second, don't ask him what will make him happy. Take a step back and look at the situation. You offered him "separation, Divorce, Moving out" all those are negative things, and will only fuel negative thoughts.
Third, if your situation is like mine when you were happy it was because you knew each other and knew your boundaries. I'm also willing to bet things were still sparatic(excuse the spelling).
Lastly....you have to take care of your self before you can try and fix things between u 2.
Good luck....its the course that I am currently on...it sucks but keep the faith..
CHeck out a dude called Homer Mcdonald....I liked his approach to saving marriage...google and you can read most of his book for free.
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