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Amplexor · 07-24-2008, 05:01 PM

This is verbal abuse, plain and simple. It is demeaning to you and is hurting you emotionally. He doesn’t communicate well and when you keep your composer he tells you to STFU and ends the argument. This is a sign that he is a controlling personality. If he can’t win the argument or sees that he is wrong he ends it with profanity and insults. Have you tried to communicate with him in writing? An email to explain how much this hurts you? Sometimes that can lead to a calmer exchange and you both have a chance to think about your response before blurting something out. If you can do that explain to him how this hurts you. Reinforce the things you love about him but that this hurts. If he can be empathetic to you maybe he will be more willing to discuss things in a rational manner. You are right this is a tough situation. Trying to communicate with someone who doesn’t do it well is always a challenge.

07-24-2008, 05:01 PM	#2 (permalink)
Amplexor Moderator Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Midwest Posts: 896	Re: Is it really me? This is verbal abuse, plain and simple. It is demeaning to you and is hurting you emotionally. He doesn’t communicate well and when you keep your composer he tells you to STFU and ends the argument. This is a sign that he is a controlling personality. If he can’t win the argument or sees that he is wrong he ends it with profanity and insults. Have you tried to communicate with him in writing? An email to explain how much this hurts you? Sometimes that can lead to a calmer exchange and you both have a chance to think about your response before blurting something out. If you can do that explain to him how this hurts you. Reinforce the things you love about him but that this hurts. If he can be empathetic to you maybe he will be more willing to discuss things in a rational manner. You are right this is a tough situation. Trying to communicate with someone who doesn’t do it well is always a challenge. __________________ Amp Confidence – Love – Patience – Faith Are the tools to help heal a marriage.