Thank you for your responses. I felt that even writing this sounded so small compaired to some of the things I've read on here. But I know that I've never been talked to or yelled at by anyone like this except for him. I do know that he grew up around violence, mainly from his stepdad. They were a very poor family, and he moved completely out of state to try and get a good job, there were none where he was living. So I know he tries very hard to come up in life, and trying to create a good home for us, his family. It's just that he is so angry, and I used to be able to handle it better I think, then I do now. I don't have very good nerves, thanks to my own family problems from when I was younger, but I have anxiety attacks fairly easy when i get really stressed out, and I just don't want to be in that position anymore where I have to be worried all the time about striking up an argument. I don't like to even bring up issues anymore because I know he thinks that I'm just nagging and trying to get him to change, he just doesn't get that is what I'm feeling and that I'm trying to talk to him about them, not nag him to death. Thanks for all the suggestions, I am so glad that I found this board
