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veryconfused33 · 07-24-2008, 10:04 PM

I'm new at this so please bare with me!

Iam 33yrs old and have been with my husband since I was 15yrs old. We have a daughter which is 15yrs old and a 4 yr old son. Our relationship seems to get worse as the years go by.

Right now the biggest problem is our love life. When I show affection toward him, he just lays there and really don't acknowledge any of it. I can touch or kiss me and he won't respond. We only have sex when HE's in the mood, which seems to be once or maybe twice a month if I'm lucky. I feel like if this is how my life is now, what am I in for 5-10 yrs down the road???

I have cutt my hair, he won't acknowledge.
I will get dress up to go to a party, he won't acknowledge.
My sister recently got married, he didn't compliment me nor did he ask me to dance. I feel so bad about myself because he does nothing/says nothing to make me feel beautiful.

Now, here's the best part. He spends hours at a time on the internet talking to local woman and woman basically from everywhere. I know this because I had spyware that would record several of his converations. He talks very sexually with these women and he has been doing this now for quite sometime. He is full of compliments toward them. I feel this is a problem. When trying to talk to him about this, he just shuts down and basically makes me feel like the crazy one. He would say, "it's not like I'm cheating on you...you know my every move." I'm almost postive that he's not cheating, but has been caught before while chatting with someone online (which to this day, he has denied) about 5yrs ago.

He almost makes me feel like everyone is better that me. I just need some advise since this all seems to be really bothering me lately.

Thank you for your advise in advance and taking the time to read this shorten version of my situation.

07-24-2008, 10:04 PM	#1 (permalink)
veryconfused33 Registered User Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: NY Posts: 5	Is this normal...please help!!! I'm new at this so please bare with me! Iam 33yrs old and have been with my husband since I was 15yrs old. We have a daughter which is 15yrs old and a 4 yr old son. Our relationship seems to get worse as the years go by. Right now the biggest problem is our love life. When I show affection toward him, he just lays there and really don't acknowledge any of it. I can touch or kiss me and he won't respond. We only have sex when HE's in the mood, which seems to be once or maybe twice a month if I'm lucky. I feel like if this is how my life is now, what am I in for 5-10 yrs down the road??? I have cutt my hair, he won't acknowledge. I will get dress up to go to a party, he won't acknowledge. My sister recently got married, he didn't compliment me nor did he ask me to dance. I feel so bad about myself because he does nothing/says nothing to make me feel beautiful. Now, here's the best part. He spends hours at a time on the internet talking to local woman and woman basically from everywhere. I know this because I had spyware that would record several of his converations. He talks very sexually with these women and he has been doing this now for quite sometime. He is full of compliments toward them. I feel this is a problem. When trying to talk to him about this, he just shuts down and basically makes me feel like the crazy one. He would say, "it's not like I'm cheating on you...you know my every move." I'm almost postive that he's not cheating, but has been caught before while chatting with someone online (which to this day, he has denied) about 5yrs ago. He almost makes me feel like everyone is better that me. I just need some advise since this all seems to be really bothering me lately. Thank you for your advise in advance and taking the time to read this shorten version of my situation.