PSJ71

There are definite degrees of alcoholism. My husband is an alcoholic, but he won't admit it. He does not drink every day, but EVERY time his family gets together, they have to make it a point to make the event happen around alcohol. His mother is very, very bad. She works in a nursing home and her days off change each week. She doesn't work the normal 5 days with 2 days off. But when she is off she STAYS drunk the entire time. She just came up for a week's vacation and she pretty much stayed lit the entire time. We have a 6-1/2-year-old and when she is not drinking he will make references like, "you wanna some more beer gramma?" Once in a convenience store she went in to buy some pop and took him in with her, and he said right in front of everyone "You gonna get some beer gramma?" So, she does it so much that even he knows. I didn't drink when I first got with my husband, but had one once in a blue moon, but I have stopped it completely because I feel as if I condone it. It has caused a lot of problems in our relationship which is why I am here. I am at my wits end and don't know what to do about it.

Like I said, it's not every day, but usually when he goes out with his dad and brother, he will get totally wasted. There have been other problems in our relationship besides the drinking, but his family is the cause for most of it. I really think my husband would stop if it weren't for his family. So, what do you do when your mate's family are the bad influences?