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cyp10 · 01-18-2010, 09:50 AM

four days ago my husband came home drunk and confessed to a one night stand he had ten months ago. At the time i was pregnant, he was away on an amatuer football tour and was a day away from coming home.

He was sharing a room with two other lads. the last night one of the lads happened to bring a girl back, this lad passed out so she decided to come on to my husband. he did not decline her advances and ended up having sex with her (protected). he says that he threw her out straight afterwards and cried for a long time.

he said he feels remorseful but it took him ten months to tell me and the fact that i was pregnant at the time hurts even more.

I feel really betrayed, our relationship has always been strong, communication is always there and our sexual relationship was always good too. Never had any large arguments. I had what i thought was the perfect marriage. This is why it has come as such a shock. he had no reason to betray me other than the fact that he had access to sex on a plate.

How could he forget about having a pregnant wife? My husband is a good person and a wonderful father. He does love us both very much and we are going to try and make it work.

Im just confused, i cant see how he could have been happier leaving for that tour. how can i accept the fact that he had sex with her purely because of raw male needs.

i need to forgive and get passed this. i just dont know how. i love my husband dearly adn would do anything for him and i know he would do the same.

he is currently sleeping in the spare bedroom, he is being good in that he is giving me space. but how long is a good time to keep him at arms length. my husband is my beast friend and in a situation like this it makes it even more difficult that i dont have the comfort of the person that means most to me.

Any advice on how to move on?

01-18-2010, 09:50 AM	#1 (permalink)
cyp10 Registered User Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 3	husband had a one night stand four days ago my husband came home drunk and confessed to a one night stand he had ten months ago. At the time i was pregnant, he was away on an amatuer football tour and was a day away from coming home. He was sharing a room with two other lads. the last night one of the lads happened to bring a girl back, this lad passed out so she decided to come on to my husband. he did not decline her advances and ended up having sex with her (protected). he says that he threw her out straight afterwards and cried for a long time. he said he feels remorseful but it took him ten months to tell me and the fact that i was pregnant at the time hurts even more. I feel really betrayed, our relationship has always been strong, communication is always there and our sexual relationship was always good too. Never had any large arguments. I had what i thought was the perfect marriage. This is why it has come as such a shock. he had no reason to betray me other than the fact that he had access to sex on a plate. How could he forget about having a pregnant wife? My husband is a good person and a wonderful father. He does love us both very much and we are going to try and make it work. Im just confused, i cant see how he could have been happier leaving for that tour. how can i accept the fact that he had sex with her purely because of raw male needs. i need to forgive and get passed this. i just dont know how. i love my husband dearly adn would do anything for him and i know he would do the same. he is currently sleeping in the spare bedroom, he is being good in that he is giving me space. but how long is a good time to keep him at arms length. my husband is my beast friend and in a situation like this it makes it even more difficult that i dont have the comfort of the person that means most to me. Any advice on how to move on?