justean

with my hubby over the 13 yrs, i have had different situations that arise with drink, some i coped with and some i did not. in this time a couple of his friends had tried to split us up.
my answer to this was hubby was a mouse not a man. stuck up for his stupid friends over a loving wife and 2 children.
he is a follower not a leader.
when hubby had the one night stand - to answer freesia4me, you deal with situations when they arise , its no good thinking about the whats, ifs , maybes. were working through it. i dont forget, but i do forgive. its the forgiveness that can take you through.
back to the alcohol. on the night hubby went out, fuelled by drink, aggressive - but i believe his mate was so adamant hubby ws staying out, he fuelled the fire for him, pushed the pints and wound up hubby all night, what an awful wife i was etc.
then he told hubby to go and ;;;; her and he would cover up for him. drink with anti depressants is a no no, he still wont listen.
but he is a different person now.
however 4 weeks ago. we starting having family over for weekends. it quickly turned into a every fri,sat and sun drinking.
luckily i came onto this thread and talked to my mother. so thankyou so much for starting this. it made me strong.
that night i told my hubby i am not taking this n e more. its me or the excess drinking, i say that , because sincerely i dont mind n e thing in moderation.
i came to the conclusion that i love my husband , but if i cannot have him, then i wont. but i finally accepted that i dont have to fall out of love with my husband to leave him.
i just know that i have taken about as much as i can in 13 yrs and the one night stand. i wil not wait for a new phase of excess drinking to start again. my mind really is set now that i would have to move on.